4 Personality Traits You Should Find In Your Mate
By Shei Tan

Happy and Optimistic Temperament

By optimism I do not mean a refusal to look at the less happy aspects of life. I mean the tendency to find life worth-while. Each individual is somewhat like a magnet, passing over the experiences of life. He picks out and attracts to himself that which is in harmony with his own personality. Both optimism and pessimism are reflections of personality.

They reveal much about the basic structure of the individual. Those who pick out, and attract to themselves the finer and happier experiences of life, will also both get and contribute the happier experiences of marriage. The person who finds life and marriage more worth-while for himself, will be more likely to make it more worth-while for his life partner.

Good Mental Adjustment

The person who selects the happier aspects of life will not be unduly bothered by little things. He will find life much too interesting and worth-while to get his feelings easily hurt, or to be touchy, grouchy, or lonesome.

A special study has been made on the connection between the neurotic and marriage success. The most successful marriages were those in which neither of the couple was neurotic. The next best was when only the wife was neurotic and the husband not. The next was when the husband, not the wife was neurotic. The worst situation is when both are neurotic.

Wholesome attitude of give and take

The person who has enough resources within himself, and can adapt himself to different kinds of situations does not always have to have his own way. Since he lives more happily himself, he is a happier and more satisfactory person to live with in the intimacies of marriage. The person who is thoughtful and considerate toward his partner makes the marriage happier, not only for the other, but for himself as well.

Attitude of Sharing Hardships, Difficulties & Joys

Every person needs the support of others. It is certainly undesirable for a person to be always dumping his troubles upon someone else. On the other hand, it is not desirable to keep one's troubles to one's self. Marriage is a partnership which rightly includes the worse as well as the better. The person who bottles up his troubles within him self so as not to distress his life partner, poisons himself.

Troubles, worries, and fears need to be shared, as well as joys. As to the children, they do need protection from pressures beyond their strength. But they should not be over-protected. Many families have become stronger during hard times and troubles because they shared their difficulties with the children.

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